Discreet Online Dating

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Not like over the computer dating, but sites like match.com, eharmony, plentyoffish…etc. where you meet someone online first and then in person?

When do you think the right age is for that?

It says you have to be 18 to sign up, but 18 seems too young. What do you think?

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080808/ap_on_el_pr/edwards_affair

The above article is a recent story. Though a paternity test hasn’t been taken and the man denies fathering the child, there is always the possibility he is the father.

In these situations what should be done?
Should the father be given the option to relinquish his paternal rights?
Should he take responsibility for his mistake and be what most would considered punished financially, emotionally, mentally and physically for the next 18 years?

Should the burden fall on the mother?

Any opinions are welcome.

sure that she hooks up with someone. I need her to cheat on me so I can be sure she leaves me and I can get a divorce where I get my share of her massive trust fund. She’s so fat though, is there any hope a guy will moo moo lovins’? I hope this is my ship finally coming in.

Okay, here’s my situation: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, but he’s REALLY flaky (one time he didn’t go out with a LONG planned outing, I had to get work off which is 3 weeks advance blah blah) So, I got over that but then he did it a couple more times, but the trend is that he cancels on plans with my family/friends/just my plans. BUT I NEVER cancel on his I’m always over there hanging out with him and his family. He even suggested we break up but I was…not ready at that point or just a little surprised and he did ask me right in the middle of a date with a bunch of his friends…

Now, I’ve finally made the decision and he keeps messaging me and it seems like he really cares….he does work A LOT and he is really busy, but could he make time and decides not to because he’s decided I’m a total sap? Recently I was going to call to arrange to break up with him in person because I’m not a loser that just calls or messages online to break up with someone, and lo and behold I couldn’t get a hold of him. So out of a little tiny bit o’ frustration I changed my facebook status to ‘it’s complicated’ and he just POPPED out of the woodwork. Bam. Messaged me on facebook, and at home.

My point is…(I know finally right?)if he really loved me and I loved him wouldn’t we want to be in contact at LEAST every other month (it’s usually a month or a few weeks between contacts). I think he just likes me and is afraid to lose me because of his man ego. I’ve found myself not caring…until he called and now I’m conflicted again. Should I end it? Am I being too demanding? Is the real problem that I lack the courage to just end this thing or could there be a lingering chance I still like this idiot? (I use idiot very endearingly…ha)

(The main reason–I know there’s more?? Ha. The reason I’m asking online is because I don’t want everyone to know that I’m considering breaking up with him before he does because that would be lame so I’m hoping to get some advice in a more “discreet” way I suppose you could call it?)

So i dont sleep around or any of those crazy things.

I had a relationship with a girl for 2 years. When I admitted I was bi-curious she broke up. Fair enough.

I then met and dated a guy, my first. had a relationship for almost a year. Was great. But he had major issues with me not being fully gay, and told me to pick. I couldnt, that ended too.

Is my only chance of long-term happiness with a bisexual? I am in the mood for a girlfriend, I guess I should look for a bi girl? How do you do that? Online I guess? Do bi-girls treat me differently?

Very discreet about my life because I know most people would just think I am some sort of freak.

Oh, I am 29. in case that matters.
—I should add, my one female friend who knows? She is straight, and whereas she loves to discuss guys with me, giving head, stuff like that, she would never date me….sigh.

so i met this guy online. he wants to experiment with guys like i do and stay discreet as well. but he told me to make the plans…

i dont know what to do? where to go? i mean will people know we’re together? even though we are not.

do i treat this date like my past dates where i went with a girl? i’m lost! help me please. my date is in like 4 hours. id prefer help from heteros gone homo or someone who’s been thru this situation

(changing the names to keep it discreet)
Met my man Mat sorta, on-line. six weeks ago. We seem to really hit it off great from the first time that we talked on the phone was for 4 hours, we’re both in our forties and a lot in common seemed that we never run out of things to talk about our lives, past, present, future, everything,. It seem all so very right , I can say that I am in love with him head over hills, and he feels the same about me. Though we have never met in person, we have very strong feelings for another. We started talking every other night, now we talk every night. He has admired me from a far long befor we actually started talking. Money is an issue for me to travel right now, we live 12 hours apart in another state.
Prior to talking to him as a lover, we talked as friends, I had a internet romance, with a friend of his Jade that never worked out because, he never would meet me in person like he said that he would. I suspected he had somebody where he lived at. I started talking to his friend Mat at a dating site, sorta accidently ran into him there, we became friends and I poured my heart out to him.. I waited for over a year and six months to meet him, (foolish on my part) but finally I broke it off when Mat told me of what he was really doing there. lots of promises that never happened. Mat was there for me, and helped me out, and he knew of me and things about me because of his friend.
He has a new where is lives and it may be a little while befor he gets time off from work, so we’d have to meet over a long weekend or holiday. I wont ever wait for someone a year and a half again to meet someone.. I just want someone opinion, on the matter. I know there are a lot of people who met online get married and have a wonderful lives together. I know lots of people actually. HELP anybody ?

Recently I have been fighting with my fiance. we have been together for 3 years, and have lived together for a while too. My problem is that he drinks too much at times, and takes off. I have also found out that he goes to online dating sites, and says he’s looking for a discreet relationship. I confronted him about that and he said that he’s sorry and never cheated on me. He says he wants to make it work, but i’m not sure if i want to. He gets jealous if i go anywhere without him. and recently i’ve been hanging out with another guy, just as friends, but i’m finding myself having feelings for him. any advise?