Discreet Online Dating

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So I’m gay and I’m a senior in high school. I met up with this other guy that I met online. He’s a junior and goes to our rival high school. We met at a coffee shop and went to the park and walked around and just talked, getting to know each other. We did this for over an hour and then went home.

He’s not out and wants to be discreet. I want to take things slow but I don’t have any ideas about a second date or to even initiate one or even what to do. We had our date yesterday and I’m not sure wwhen I should call him again. We have a connection and I think that we could have something I just need some adivice. Thoughts?

I don’t want to make the same mistakes I made in the past.

Where can I meet other singles for free? Please no site that works with matchmaking info and compatibility profiles, I do not belief in that.

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Please be sure to watch part one of this video first. Click on “more from mrbigdaddy2k6″ and select it from there. This is the second half of the original video with this title. Again, these are my thoughts, opinioins, and views on this topic. Not everything said in this video will apply to every situation. Please keep an open mind while viewing and leave your questions, thoughts, and suggestions.

For Part 2 of this video, be sure to click on the right side of the screen “more from mrbigdaddy2k6″ and select the video. This is a video on my advice to dating/married couples. In this video are my views, thoughts, and opinioins. Not everything that I say applies to every situation. Keep an open mind while viewing and leave me your thoughts, questions, and suggestions.

Back story:
I’m 38 with a 14 month old baby. I have been with my significant other for 14 years. We started trying to get pregnant when I was 30 and it took 6 years. I am thrilled to be able to be a stay-at-home-mom. When I was a child I was molested by a babysitter so I am hesitant to put my daughter into daycare, at least until she can talk well enough to tell me what’s going on.

I don’t think my relationship is doing justice to either one of our lives. In Oprah terms, we’re not “living our best lives”.

I don’t think he’s cheating yet, but this week, I discovered a personal add he placed on an adult website in search of a sexual partner. In the ad he said he wanted to have a discreet sexual relationship that would not interfere with his family life.

I confronted him about it and he said he only wanted to “chat” online and look at dirty pics. I finally convinced him to admit to the truth of wanting actual sex. I will not have unprotected sex with him again though I think I can convince him not the cheat. I asked him to go to relationship counseling and he agreed.

I’ve worked as a substitute teacher for the last few years and the income is extremely low with no benefits and now they are laying off in my school district so I don’t even know if I could go back.

I feel like I’ve put up with the mediocrity of this relationship for so long that I should just hang in there for the sake of being able to stay at home with my daughter.

Basically, I’m scared. Scared to raise my daughter alone. Scared I’ll be in the poor house. Scared to re-enter the dating arena with my scarred and sagging body.

If you’ve actually read all this, thank you so much. Tell me what you think? Is it time to leave or begin preparations for leaving?

Does anyone have any general knowledge or statistics on this? I’m wondering just how strong a committed relationship or marriage can be going forward when they began as an extramarital affair. It would seem to me that whether one or both has been deceitful with their own spouses during the affair, they can’t very well trust one another afterward. Also, does not the lingering guilt make the new relationship have a strike against it from the start. I can’t imagine being very happy knowing I’d taken someone away from their family for my own selfish needs. But maybe that’s just me.